Sunday, May 31, 2009
Saturday, May 30, 2009
See above pair of sandals I am currently lusting after. This knotted leather sandal was $78.00 and is now on sale for $38.99...sigh..they will be mine....
Friday, May 29, 2009
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Needed #1 Found at Lunch Time- See the Jeans underneath the cup? They are the Gap's 1969 Dark Denim Flair Cut Stretch Jean. They were $7.99 at my favorite sell out place Lot-Less on Clinton Street. I had no intention of buying jeans though they were on my list of things to replace. Running across them while shopping was a happy coincidence. The obvious tags and labels were cut off in order to discount sell them but logos on the pocket, the sewn in care labels, the rivets and button clearly identify the brand of jeans.
Luxury #1 Found After Work - See this amazing new cup and saucer set? It was just the little bit of luxury I needed. I found it while dropping off two huge Ikea bags of donations to Housing Works on 17th Street. Each piece was marked $3, but at the register it only rang up for $1.00 plus tax. It seems HW was having a huge sale. I enjoyed the luxury of cup Lady Earl Grey tea while writing this post before adding the unique set to my Mad-Hatter Tea Party Cup and Saucer Collection.
Luxury #2 Found When I Got Home - Much to my surprise I received Vogue's 2009 Calendar in the mail that night. Granted it was a little late and unexpected but I had been considering buying a printed calendar to keep track of my appointments and major to-dos for the day. This free one is most welcomed and now each month I will be greeted with some of the amazing fashion photos that have graced the pages and covers of Vogue over the years.
Luxury/Needed Combo #1 Also Found In the Mail - I received a Free Panty plus $10 off any purchase coupon from Victoria's Secret. Funny I was just thinking that I am in need of some new undies, which are on sale at VS from May 21 through June 1, 10 pair for$25! 11 pairs here I come!
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
For $0.75, $1.00 and $1.50 you can enjoy iced guava, pineapple, tamarind and of course cherry, chocolate and coconut...hmmmm soooooo worth the try!
Monday, May 25, 2009
Saturday, May 23, 2009
Friday, May 22, 2009
Wondering if Tofu can be smoked like that???
½ cup soft butter
½ cup brown sugar
4 Tbsps. raisins* optional
1 teaspoon baking powder
2 medium eggs
1 teaspoon vanilla
4 tsps. milk
½ cup shredded sweet coconut
2. Using the finger tips, rub fat into sifted flour until mixture resembles fine breadcrumbs.
3. Add sugar, raisins, baking powder and coconut, mix in evenly.
4. Beat eggs and vanilla. Pour into flour mixture and combine then add milk slowly.
5. Combine mixture with the hands until a moist dough is formed.
6. With a spoon and a fork, divide dough into equal pieces and shape each piece into a “rocky cone” on the greased baking tray, sprinkle with coarse sugar'.
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
A few months ago I posted about a book regarding Zen. It was a simplification of the concept and worth the read for those of us seeking a way to find it. Perhaps the influence of reading that book is at work, but this post isn't about that book, it is about the simplicity of centering just by breathing in and out and allowing thoughts that come up no power in that time and the space to evolve by not holding onto them.
Thoughts wait for our alone time to surface, especially those thoughts that cannot be addressed while we are struggling to move from points A to B to C during our day. Perhaps this is why most of us fill our time with things and people to do? It helps us avoid dealing with those that may be too hard or too painful to address otherwise. In the silent space of meditation they sense the freedom and rise to be seen and heard. Trust me, during my meditations all types of thoughts and visuals flash across my head. Most times it is a struggle not to hold onto them and examine them for their purpose and meaning. Sometimes it is a struggle not to fast forward them to others that are less troublesome. And no matter how much I try to draw a blank in the beginning of each session there are always visuals and thoughts that require the patience and practice to clear them away. Despite years of a semi consistent practice I am always learning how to acknowledge them without holding onto to any and to allow each one the freedom to move on to the next without me pushing them forward. For me it is all in the breathing. Usually on an inhale I allow my thoughts the space of the breath and then I release them in the space of the exhale. I try not to think on what I am letting go of, instead if the same thought surfaces again and again, and sometimes again, I repeat the inhale/exhale process until a new one takes its place or my mind moves onto the goal of "nothingness".
Sometimes in that silence and "nothingness" there is truly a "somethingness" that is immediately and firmly accessible. Sometimes it is just a grasp of light in the middle of a breath that dances away with each exhale. Regardless, allowing things I cannot control or own, such as memories, to flow always brings me home. When the thoughts and images are gone and I am in the middle of the space something magical happens. While in it there is a sense of peace and I find myself, usually afterwards, filled with gratitude and love that goes beyond our concept of attached love. It is then that the thoughts that hindered me during the day have no power. When I stop listening to the demands and desires of the outside world, including my own ego's expectations for me regarding those influences, and pause to hear the silence that is buried within I find peace and a sense of balance that with practice can be recalled in times of stress.
Monday, May 18, 2009
Tonight I will stop off and buy an amazing white wine to go with it.
I blame this craving on having my friend Greg's amazing Ceviche for dinner last night. This high protein dish leaves you dreaming of your next encounter.
Mine will be tonight.
I suspect most of you have experienced some form of Ceviche, a citrus marinated fish appetizer found in most South American countries. The citrus, lemons, limes and sometimes oranges depending on the recipe's origins, actually "cooks" the fish, shrimp and shell fish usually used and blends with the hot pepper, herbs and spices to make an addictive dish that lingers in your memory until you can have it again.
Following is the recipe from Mexico that I will use for tonight's fix -
Ingredients: Serves 6
1 pound of white fish diced into ½ inch cube
(I use flounder or tilapia)
4 large limes
2 small lemons
1 large diced fresh tomato
½ small red onion, finely chopped
½ small green sweet pepper, chopped in cubes
½ jalapeño pepper, chopped in cubes
½ bunch of fresh chopped cilantro
1 teaspoon of olive oil
salt and pepper to taste
Diced avocado and tortilla chips
In a large bowl, gently mix the fish with the lime juice and lemon juice and refridge for 1 hour or fish is opaque and cooked.
In another bowl mix the tomato, onion, sweet pepper, jalapeño, cilantro/parsley, olive oil, salt and pepper.
Mix all ingredients; cover the bowl and chill ceviche in the refrigerator until ready to serve.
Serve the ceviche with *avocado slices and corn chips and don't forget the good white wine.
* Greg puts the avocado into the ceviche because everyone prefers it that way.
See added photo of tonight's efforts!!
Sunday, May 17, 2009
A Sunday morning luxury for me is as easy as warming small tortillas on a lightly buttered skillet and topping with chopped boiled eggs, diced, salted tomato, avocado, red onion and cilantro. Along with a rich cup of Cafe Au Lait (see my pic) it's easy, quick and a luxury for eyes, nose, hands and mouth.
Tortillas are a late addition to my eating habit. I know they are all over the place, but when you have had them handmade by a friend whose great-grandmother taught her how to make them you can't just pick up a bag of Mission fajita wraps and be happy. For years I avoided them like the plague. But recently I have actually made an effort to try a number of brands in my search to simplify meals and found that Buena Vista Tortilla, made in Brooklyn!, aren't that bad when heated. Though marketed tortillas can never compare to hot, fresh tortillas finding ones that come pretty darn close is another little luxury I don't take for granted.
Saturday, May 16, 2009
Depending on the location and facitility options for between $10-$75 a year you can have the use of weightrooms, basketball & tennis courts, dance and work out studios and classes, boxing rings, game rooms, libraries, art studios and pools without the heavy gym or studio fees.
Friday, May 15, 2009
The universe has this annoying habit of sending me blatant and obvious "hits" from people I no longer want in my life. You know the people I type of, people whose drama made your life hell, whose need to control or be controlled never allowed for a balanced connection, people whose presence in your life deteriorated your efforts and direction, and people who you just wanted gone because it's time for them to go. Despite banishing them from my life and my thoughts, admittedly after taking the time to look at things from all angles and trying to understand what the purpose of that time lost, it seems that just when I am feeling "safe" I am jolted back a bit by running into them or being reminded of them by strange coincidental occurrences and sometimes even hearing directly from them.
There was a time when I allowed others to affect me in a way that it hindered my progress. I let people steal my joy, to borrow a phrase that has been kicked around a bit. More importantly I let them steal my thunder and found myself floundering by the affects of being involved with these crazy makers. Either the encounters left me perplexed and feeling somewhat depleted so I couldn't feel myself or see my goals. Or I found myself walled up and detached from myself and my direction in protective mood. Either way I realized that I was desperately trying to find some type of mechanism that would help me cope with the selfish people I had let into my life, people that have no idea that what they do and how they place themselves in the world affects others. At times I foolishly believed that just being me and working through it would change others and fix what was between me and that person. I wanted to make things right. I was being selfish because I wanted what I wanted when I wanted it and was trying to fix something that might not have been broken but rather should have never even been considered worth fixing. What I didn't understand was that in some cases all I could do was take my shoes off and swiftly walk away, but me being me I didn't. Instead I stood knee deep in it, sometimes going to the wall over and over again only to fall on my ass, until I knew there was nothing left to do but either destroy the house being built or run away.
The thing is I take my responsibility in it all. I know my desire to correct and fix, based on what I wanted or the other party projected they wanted, was a manipulation of what shouldn’t even been considered investing in, but sometimes circumstances and desires go against logic. I have learned that regardless of how balanced we are or how well we have insulated ourselves in this world with true and honest support and love we will always have encounters with those that only want you to support their illusion and have no intention of returning the favor in kind. And I don't like it! Not one bit!! But all I can I do is roll through it to get to the other side because lessons may make me stronger but I will be damned if the make me hard.
Thursday, May 14, 2009
1/2 c. soften butter
1 c. sugar
2 large eggs
1 1/2 c. flour mix of half whole wheat/half white flours
1 tsp. baking soda
1/2 tsp. salt
2-3 very ripe bananas mashed
3/4 c. plain yogurt
1 tsp. vanilla
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
This is not the first time I have seen or heard this phrase. At the risk of alienating some friends I have even seen it in the relationship areas on their profiles. Still "It's complicated" perplexes me each time I run across it because I see it as a way of avoiding confirmation of your commitment and remaining open to possibility that may or may not replace it.
Each time I read or hear the phrase I can't help but I wonder what is so complicated about it? Either you're in a relationship or not. Either you're married or not. Either your separated or not. Either you're dating or not. Either you're in an open relationship or not. The details of your status may be complex but as far as what it is and what your partner believes what is between the two of you isn't. What is so complex about that?
I have been in complex relationships and have had to work my way out (mostly because of my own attachments) but once again I refer to owning one's behavior and behaving honorably. Regardless of the perimeters of the relationship, I am in it and there is nothing complex about admitting my status. My commitment is my priority and sorting it out is between me and the man I am partnered to. This doesn't mean I don't have male friends, but it does mean that those friends and the man I am involved with know of my relationships and friendships which sets firm perimeters. Nothing complex about it.
My question to those that use the term "it's complicated" is do your partners know how complicated it is? Do your partners know that you are seeking other means of satisfaction outside of your agreement, even if the arrangements are open? And if yes, in my case as least, can you provide me with a signed affidavit and/or allow me to contact your partner for verbal confirmation as reassurance before I become involved in something too complex? (lol)
I recently received the Revlon RV084C Professional Ceramic 3-Barrel Jumbo Waver and have to admit I was pretty intimidated by it though it claimed to be the perfect styling tool for waves and texture. The 3 jumbo ceramic coated barreled iron heats up in 60 seconds and it has 25 heat settings to assist in creating waves in all types of hair. Once I was over my fright I managed to impart waves and volume that lasted for most of the day. Still testing the hair benefits of its use.
Available at various drugstores and shopping centers for $23-$29.00.
Monday, May 11, 2009
Sunday, May 10, 2009
I am a fashion junkie, though not a victim or a whore. I am drawn to clothing and costume and pretty things and pour over magazines, peer into shop windows and hunt for all manner of clothing and accessory. Most times I just want to examine the item and see it. I can only image the debt and excess I would be swimming in if I actually bought all the things I am drawn to.
While hunting I am more than often appalled by the prices in comparison to the quality we are offerred, especially from some "name brands". I underestand that there are chains of people in connection between the manufacture and sale of these items, but the greed of corporations and businesses that produce these goods has pushed beyond the limits of acceptability. We are suppose to believe that luxury items are necessities. Magazines report and to a great degree create trends and doing so highlight the "artists" making them. The media then splashes these hot designers and their items without so much as a shock response to the fact that they are telling me to buy a pair of jeans that can feed a family of 4 for a month or more. Because of this type of hype we become bombarded with messages, conscious and subconscious, to buy, have, own way beyond our true means and the circumstances of our true lives. For most of us attempting to live this ideal life puts us in a cycle of financial pain of debt and loss and because of the "brainwahsing we often forget that it is our choice to buy and support such things
Happy Mother's Day
(My Great Grandmother Georgianna & 5 of her 9 children,including my Grandmother Dorothy. She nurtured us all.)
Saturday, May 9, 2009
Friday, May 8, 2009
Thursday, May 7, 2009
I fall in lust with most make-up palettes I run across.
Despite this I rarely purchase any of them because I find myself only using one or two of the shades included or if the colors are selectable the line always seems to be discontinued before I can replace any of the make up.
It is rare that I fall in love with the whole package but NP Set by Napoleon Perdis in Denim is the exception. I adore ever usable enhancing color and at $29 for a kit that includes make up for eyes, lips and cheeks it's a steal.
Only available at Target.
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
11 tablespoons room temperature butter
1 tablespoon sesame oil
1/4 cup dark
1 cup sugar
1 large egg
2 cups flour
1/2 teaspoon ground cloves, ground ginger
1 teaspoon cinnamon
2 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon salt
3 1/2 ounces candied ginger, coarsely chopped (about 1/2 cup)
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
The funny thing is after thinking and writing about this I went to my facebook list and tried to edit down the contacts but to be honest whether it's daily, weekly or monthly I connect with everyone who is on the list in a way that I believe is satisfactory to us all, at least I haven't heard any complaints.....
Monday, May 4, 2009
Sunday, May 3, 2009
We stumbled, bumbled and laughed at ourselves and each other and by the end we each wanted our own game! The next day I bought one off of Amazon (http://www.amazon.com/Hasbro-Electronic-Catch-Phrase-Game/dp/B00005BY4I/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&s=toys-and-games&qid=1240782877&sr=1-6 ) and have been forcing unsuspecting friends to grab it, guess it and pass it along as quickly as possible ever since.